One of the biggest lessons I learned from my divorce is that 1 + 1 doesn’t always equal 2.

For a long time, I believed love—and marriage—was about building a life together. Thriving careers?✅ Profitable businesses?✅ Kids?✅ Vacations?✅ A nice home or two?✅

Starting from very humble beginnings, my ex and I checked all the boxes. On paper, we looked like the perfect couple. And for a long time, I believed we were.

But somewhere along the way, something wasn’t right. And I had no clue.

But my body was trying to tell me.

In fact, it was yelling at me:

"Hey, you’ve had two miscarriages in 12 months!"

But I shrugged it off and kept pushing through the motions of life.

Looking back, I realize now—I had completely lost myself in my marriage, devoting myself entirely to the roles of wife and mom. I was so consumed that I became a fraction of my whole self—drained, disconnected, and completely unaware.

By the time we started our divorce, our marriage wasn’t even at one anymore. Maybe 0.5? As the process unfolded, it dipped to 0.25. Or could it have been ➖1? 

And then came the questions that haunted me:
❓Why did he cheat?
❓Why did he abandon us?
❓What did I do to cause this?
❓What could I have done to prevent my family from falling apart?

I read every book I could find on infidelity and relationships, desperately searching for answers. Until one day, it hit me.

It doesn’t matter.

What he did or did not do. What I did or did not do. None of these matter. 

I have to rebuild myself into 1.

So, I poured myself into healing—yoga, meditation, journaling, and therapy. Later, coaching—both being coached and becoming a coach myself—supercharged my growth.

Slowly, I found my way back home. Bit by bit, I found my voice and felt whole again.

And when I finally dipped my toes into dating, I knew one thing for sure: I didn’t want a relationship where 1 + 1 = 2.

I wanted something exponentially greater. A soul-aligned and soul-inspired partnership where both people show up as their full, radiant selves. Where love expands outward, lifting everyone it touches—our kids, friends, colleagues, neighbours, clients...Where 1+1 = 2000 or 2 Million!

The real epiphany?

Before I can have THAT kind of relationship, I have to be larger than one—on my own.
Yes, Lisa > 1, Lisa = 100/1000/1 Million. 

That’s the work I’m doing now—learning, expanding, evolving.
💌Examining my blind spots.
💌Leaning into discomfort.
💌Admitting when I’m wrong.
💌Releasing my need to always be right.
💌Taking a step back to recalibrate when I need to.
💌Allowing others to have space.
💌Surrounding myself with people who reflect my light back to me and inspire me to shine.

🌟And trusting things will unfold the way they are meant to.

🧘🏻‍♀️Approaching life with humanity, humility, and love—especially in challenging moments when I don’t get what I want.

That’s exactly why, as a divorce coach, my work always starts with you and focuses on yourself.

Because no matter how painful or overwhelming things feel right now, no one can complete your equation but you.

Are you ready to become larger than one?

If your answer is a full-body “yes”, let’s talk.